The real answer.

So it's been a while since I've posted anything. Not sure if I just got lazy or if it was because my computer was broken. Either way I'm back with a force. This is going to be a pretty serious blog which for that I do apologize but you can stop reading you're an adult. You have been warned :)

How many conversations have you had that started like this: "Hey!" "Hi!" "How are you?" "I'm good."
Why is the automatic response of anyone asked this question "I'm good" or "I'm O.K". What about your life makes you just good or even just o.k. See we as people ask the question not because we care but because we feel obligated to, we see it as a social standard for all conversations. The number of time I've lied and said I was good is astounding. See the natural response for me is that they don't actually care so why bother. I know its a really bad way of looking at friendships but looking at myself when I ask the question I cant help  but wonder why do I feel this way about. Selfishness. Let that sink in for a moment. We are selfish people at our core (or at least most of us are). I wish I could stop and really ask the question "How are you really?" But see the thing is most of our friendships are surface level. We never really dive deep into our friends lives. I mean yes I have my best friends who I can tell you every single little detail about but, what about the rest of the people I know? Do I just push them into a  sub-category of people who I know? I know that seems harsh but its taken me 21 years of shallow friendships to realize I'm actually o.k with these status. I really want to challenge whoever reads this to really think about the friendships you have in your life. How many of these friendships do you have? And how are you going to change it? I know not everyone you meet is going to be a friend for life but why not treasure them for the person who they our in Gods sight. He took the time to get to know them He even went so far to send His only son to die for them and the most we can give them is a pathetic attempt to make small talk until you or they have to leave. For some reason I feel like Christians are the worst about this, we meet someone and for a brief moment you have the chance to invest in their life or just brush them off. I want to stop this habit. I mean obviously I'm not going to have them give me their entire life story upon the first meeting but I am going to ask them questions that require more than 1 word answers.  I want them to feel as though we can be friends and that they can call me, text me, or ask me to pray for them at any given time. But most people I meet I think "Hey there's someone new. Time for the new person check list." Time for a change in thinking I need to think "I want that person to feel love from God because I love them" To the people who are in my life now I want to say I'm sorry for creating these friendships and challenge me to change. Hold me accountable call me out if I start this habit again. And I challenge whoever reads this to do the same.

I know this is heavy/ scattered and for that I say cut me some slack its been a long week with twists and turns around every corner. But I'm going to start writing blogs once a week about various topics some will be longer than others and that's fine. Please leave comments, send tweets, write me on Facebook if you want to tell me about what you think even if you thought it sucked and that I'm an awful person. If you want me to pray for something for you this week send me a Facebook message or direct message me on Twitter even if its just unspoken. Anyway gotta jet got a long week ahead of me. Thanks for reading!